Life's Not Always Fair (That Doesn't Mean You Have To Take It)

One of the biggest phrases that you will ever hear in life is how it’s not fair. Fairness is relative. You’re going to find life unfair when it’s not going the way that you want; it doesn't mean that it’s unfair, it just means that you have to find another way to make life satisfactory again. Being treated like a doormat? It sucks. But, I can let you in on a little secret about that: you do not have to take it.

There is no law in your life that says that when someone treats you badly, you have to put up with it and shut up. You don’t have to be the person dwelling on the B.S. that happens in your life. You don’t have to sit around waiting for it all to get better, crying “woe is me” at the moon. Well, that last point is a little dramatic, but you get what I am saying. You don’t have to put up with anything in your life that is negative or hurts your heart. So why are you doing it? Why are you taking it?


Would you put up with being hurt by a professional who did their job so badly that you ended up living with the consequences? No, you would bring in the best medical malpractice attorneys and make the case that you have been wronged. So, if you’re strong enough to do that, why wouldn’t you be strong enough to stop being treated like a doormat? Life becomes an awful lot fairer when you realize that you are the one in control. If there is someone in your life devaluing you, you need to look at yourself and remember that you are worth everything. You are worth so much more than someone pulling you down.

Of course, a part of this is going to be looking at the way that you treat others. If you go out of your way to help other people and are a good person, sometimes too good, then you are likely going to be taken advantage of because of your nature. You don’t have to be, though. If you can be strong in other areas of your life such as when an unjust action has happened, then you can be strong enough to stand up and get out of a situation that causes you pain.


You see, you have to realize it’s very black and white: do you want to keep taking it, or not? It’s that simple. Stop accepting bad things happening to you and demand something better.



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4 Ways To Stop Self-Sabotage in 2019

You can fail at absolutely anything in life. It’s a hard, but very real truth. You can try and try to do something you want to do, and you can fail it. This may sound like a way to get really depressed really quickly; why bother trying if you can fail? Well, you can spend your entire life worrying about the worst, but all that really matters is the choices you make right now. You can imagine an encyclopedia of ‘what if’ scenarios about the way that you choose to do things with your life, but until you try to do them, you won’t ever get anywhere. The things you REALLY want always seem out of reach: they’re not, but fear tells you that they are.

You can fail when you take the safe routes in life, checking all the boxes that people tell you that you should be checking. Career. Family. Savings. House. Wedding…..

All of these neat little boxes that people expect you to fill are the same boxes that fence you in. Some people rebel against the norms in a way that isn't always positive; turning to drugs or alcohol to escape from life. Self-sabotage in this way is different from living in the here now. Instead, this has a profound impact on your life in a way that isn't worth the risk. You can spend time going down the wrong path, with an outpatient drug rehab center in your future, or you can start succeeding at the things you are willing to take a risk on. Perhaps instead of the safe career your peers and parents have always guided you towards, you choose something you want to do instead. Perhaps instead of having children because society told you that you should, you choose not to.


You are very capable at undermining your own goals with self-sabotage, placing unnecessary limitations on your own abilities to live your dream. It’s time to stop doing that. Instead, you need to look at ways to stop your self-sabotage in 2019, and here are four ways to do just that:

  1. Figure out why you’re doing it. Some people head for sabotage without even noticing because they’re that used to it. You don’t have to be, though, even when it keeps you in your comfort zone. Once you realize why you’re going through the motions of sabotage, you can recognize the behaviors and stop.

  2. Practice positivity. In your mind, in your life, in your actions. Constantly talk to yourself in a positive way and you will drown out the negative inner voice telling you that you can’t do something, therefore you shouldn’t do it.

  3. Ignore others. Not literally, but ignore them as a benchmark to your own life. You do not have to compare yourself to someone else to be worthy of acceptance. You are wonderful; just as you are.

  4. Learn to look at your faults and mistakes and accept them. Being your own friend means you are going to practice kindness in the place that self-sabotage would once have been whispering in your ear. Ignore the voice and be the best friend you’ve ever had.



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Disability Needn't Mean Reduced Productivity

When you’re involved in an accident that wasn’t your fault or afflicted by an illness, it can have long term and life-changing consequences. You may even be unable to continue in your present job or career. This can rob you of your long-term and short-term goals and even lead to a degree of identity crisis. For the seasoned professional or dynamic entrepreneur, a disability caused by unexpected illness or injury can feel like the end of your world. However, just because you are unable to continue on your present course does not mean that you are forever condemned to languish of what might have been. Many disabled people propel themselves into productive and financially rewarding careers either in new jobs or as freelancers.

Here are some tips to staying productive when affected by unexpected disability…


Get in touch with a disability lawyer as soon as possible

If you’re unable to work as a result of your disability, there’s a good chance that this will place a great deal of financial stress upon you. Not only is this the last thing you need when trying to launch a new business, enterprise or career, stress and anxiety can even impede your physical, emotional and psychological recovery. A long term disability lawyer contact can be a huge blessing in this scenario. They can work with you to prepare your claim to ensure that you will get all disability insurance you are entitled to and fight your corner should your claim be rejected. This will ease the financial pressure on you and allow you to keep the bills paid while you prepare yourself for a new career trajectory.


Pain and productivity

Your disability, whether it is a long or short term condition will more than likely lead to periods of pain and discomfort. These will, inevitably, impact upon your productivity. While it may be tempting to bemoan this or become frustrated by it, it’s far more conducive to your productivity simply to make your peace with it and resign yourself to the fact that some days you may be less productive and on other days you may struggle to get anything done at all. Factor this into your deadlines, organization and scheduling and you’ll be far better off. Any freelancer knows the danger of over-extending themselves and while it may seem counter-intuitive, being realistic with yourself and setting achievable goals will be far better for productivity than overreaching.


Managing your money

Whether you freelance or work for an employer, there will likely be a learning curve when it comes to money management. Some insurers, for example, may place a cap on how much you are able to earn which can lead to money management issues and the dreaded disability debt spiral.

It may be worth looking into ways in which you can consolidate or reorganize debts in order to make your monthly outgoings easier to manage. Remember also, that your new career change will likely incur some tax deductible expenses which will reduce your tax obligation leaving you with more income to invest back into your business and keep the wolf from the door.



With proper motivation and organization disability needn’t mean reduced productivity!


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