How To Be A Better Friend This Year

With the dawn of a new year, everyone is thinking about ways to improve themselves and live their best life. Whether your ambitions run to overhauling your diet and starting your day with healthy smoothies, travelling and seeing more of the world, studying for a new qualification or even finally getting those killer abs, there's no end of articles, videos, podcasts and books instructing you on how to go about it. Some people are just constantly striving to better themselves, and that is a positive drive to have in life. But whichever areas of self-improvement we've chosen to focus on, relatively few will think about how they can become a better friend. And yet, focusing on this area of your life has real potential to improve your happiness and mental balance.

Friendships are the glue that bind together our days, and shared experiences have the biggest impact on our well-being. Human beings are fundamentally social animals, and when we develop solid bonds, it makes our lives feel more stable. If we choose to enhance what we give to others in our friendships, we will get so much more back in return. Making a conscious decision to enhance what you give, will mean you get so much. So focus on your friendships this year in order to enhance your life…


Improve Your Communication Skills

When was the last time you really listened? Social media and time pressures have gradually eroded our ability to deeply listen, and conditioned us to become much more superficial, with a reduced attention span. All the scrolling, swiping and expressing our thoughts in 140 characters has taken its toll, and we struggle with giving our friendships the deep dive that they need. Concentrating on non-verbal cues during conversations will give you a much clearer picture of how the other person actually is. There may be areas where they need extra support that you simply won't pick up on without meaningful conversation. Things like being trapped in a destructive relationship are often subtle and difficult to spot, as victims will often try to hide what's really going on out of misplaced shame and fear. A friend who listens can be absolutely invaluable in a situation like this, and a crucial part of the effort to stop violence against women. The impact of paying attention can be huge in areas such as this. Use kindness and sensitivity towards their feelings and you could make a life-changing connection.

Stand By Your Word

Making false promises is sure to damage your friendships. Sometimes we can do this without meaning to, but being able to trust your word is essential if you want your friends to trust you. The intentions you put out into the world must tally with your actions, or it creates a fundamental mistrust that can sour your friendships. If you've ever been guilty of not being true to your word, even without intending to do so, then this year you need to up your game. If you've arranged a coffee date, don't flake out. If you say you'll get those concert tickets, then do. Even if it's a really small thing, like promising to do a favor, then follow up on it. This will strengthen your social ties and build stronger reciprocal friendships.

Be Forgiving

We are all human, but sometimes we can be a bit judgmental and unforgiving when it comes to the failings of others. If you've chosen to give your loyalty to someone, then don't make it conditional. Building a support network doesn't happen overnight, so if your friends falter on occasion then try to be understanding. There is definitely a difference between those who consistently let you down and something happening on one occasion. Learn to be more forgiving, especially if a friend is coping with recently changed circumstances, like starting a new job or having a family. They may have a lot on their mind.

Understand Other Perspectives

Life is all about variety, and it would be very boring if we all held the same opinions. So don't make the mistake of assuming your take on a situation is the only way that's right. The beauty of life is the multitude of differing opinions. If you let go of the idea that there is a ‘right’ way to think about a given situation, it will open up your mind and enrich your life. You'll become an empathetic person and a much better friend. It's an important step to take for your own enrichment and that of your friendships.


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4 Ways To Stop Self-Sabotage in 2019

You can fail at absolutely anything in life. It’s a hard, but very real truth. You can try and try to do something you want to do, and you can fail it. This may sound like a way to get really depressed really quickly; why bother trying if you can fail? Well, you can spend your entire life worrying about the worst, but all that really matters is the choices you make right now. You can imagine an encyclopedia of ‘what if’ scenarios about the way that you choose to do things with your life, but until you try to do them, you won’t ever get anywhere. The things you REALLY want always seem out of reach: they’re not, but fear tells you that they are.

You can fail when you take the safe routes in life, checking all the boxes that people tell you that you should be checking. Career. Family. Savings. House. Wedding…..

All of these neat little boxes that people expect you to fill are the same boxes that fence you in. Some people rebel against the norms in a way that isn't always positive; turning to drugs or alcohol to escape from life. Self-sabotage in this way is different from living in the here now. Instead, this has a profound impact on your life in a way that isn't worth the risk. You can spend time going down the wrong path, with an outpatient drug rehab center in your future, or you can start succeeding at the things you are willing to take a risk on. Perhaps instead of the safe career your peers and parents have always guided you towards, you choose something you want to do instead. Perhaps instead of having children because society told you that you should, you choose not to.


You are very capable at undermining your own goals with self-sabotage, placing unnecessary limitations on your own abilities to live your dream. It’s time to stop doing that. Instead, you need to look at ways to stop your self-sabotage in 2019, and here are four ways to do just that:

  1. Figure out why you’re doing it. Some people head for sabotage without even noticing because they’re that used to it. You don’t have to be, though, even when it keeps you in your comfort zone. Once you realize why you’re going through the motions of sabotage, you can recognize the behaviors and stop.

  2. Practice positivity. In your mind, in your life, in your actions. Constantly talk to yourself in a positive way and you will drown out the negative inner voice telling you that you can’t do something, therefore you shouldn’t do it.

  3. Ignore others. Not literally, but ignore them as a benchmark to your own life. You do not have to compare yourself to someone else to be worthy of acceptance. You are wonderful; just as you are.

  4. Learn to look at your faults and mistakes and accept them. Being your own friend means you are going to practice kindness in the place that self-sabotage would once have been whispering in your ear. Ignore the voice and be the best friend you’ve ever had.



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Disability Needn't Mean Reduced Productivity

When you’re involved in an accident that wasn’t your fault or afflicted by an illness, it can have long term and life-changing consequences. You may even be unable to continue in your present job or career. This can rob you of your long-term and short-term goals and even lead to a degree of identity crisis. For the seasoned professional or dynamic entrepreneur, a disability caused by unexpected illness or injury can feel like the end of your world. However, just because you are unable to continue on your present course does not mean that you are forever condemned to languish of what might have been. Many disabled people propel themselves into productive and financially rewarding careers either in new jobs or as freelancers.

Here are some tips to staying productive when affected by unexpected disability…


Get in touch with a disability lawyer as soon as possible

If you’re unable to work as a result of your disability, there’s a good chance that this will place a great deal of financial stress upon you. Not only is this the last thing you need when trying to launch a new business, enterprise or career, stress and anxiety can even impede your physical, emotional and psychological recovery. A long term disability lawyer contact can be a huge blessing in this scenario. They can work with you to prepare your claim to ensure that you will get all disability insurance you are entitled to and fight your corner should your claim be rejected. This will ease the financial pressure on you and allow you to keep the bills paid while you prepare yourself for a new career trajectory.


Pain and productivity

Your disability, whether it is a long or short term condition will more than likely lead to periods of pain and discomfort. These will, inevitably, impact upon your productivity. While it may be tempting to bemoan this or become frustrated by it, it’s far more conducive to your productivity simply to make your peace with it and resign yourself to the fact that some days you may be less productive and on other days you may struggle to get anything done at all. Factor this into your deadlines, organization and scheduling and you’ll be far better off. Any freelancer knows the danger of over-extending themselves and while it may seem counter-intuitive, being realistic with yourself and setting achievable goals will be far better for productivity than overreaching.


Managing your money

Whether you freelance or work for an employer, there will likely be a learning curve when it comes to money management. Some insurers, for example, may place a cap on how much you are able to earn which can lead to money management issues and the dreaded disability debt spiral.

It may be worth looking into ways in which you can consolidate or reorganize debts in order to make your monthly outgoings easier to manage. Remember also, that your new career change will likely incur some tax deductible expenses which will reduce your tax obligation leaving you with more income to invest back into your business and keep the wolf from the door.



With proper motivation and organization disability needn’t mean reduced productivity!


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Everything You Need to Know About Emotional Support Animals

Generally speaking, humans and animals tend to live apart. We pass hundreds of animals on a daily basis. However, we tend live alongside them with little interaction. But then there are animals who we actively incorporate into our lives. Nine times out of ten, these animals will be pets. We offer them a comfortable home to live in, in exchange for their companionship, loyalty, and unconditional love. However, you will often find that different people rely on their pets to a different extent. Some treat them as pets. Others treat them as family. If you find that you have a particular bond with your pet and rely on them for emotional support on a regular basis, you could say that you have an emotional support animal. Read on for everything you need to know about this!

What Actually Is An Emotional Support Animal?

An emotional support animal, otherwise referred to as an “ESA”, is a companion creature who actively provides their owner or handler with emotional support that can significantly improve their overall health, happiness, and wellbeing. In order for an animal to be officially recognized as an emotional support animal, they will have to be signed off by a psychiatrist, psychologist or other qualified health practitioner. This individual will verify that this pet’s presence is necessary for you to maintain a good quality of life. You can then enroll your pet as an ESA and receive official documents to confirm this through certa pet.

Can My Pet Be an ESA?

ESAs tend to be most beneficial for individuals who suffer from some sort of physical, psychiatric, or intellectual problem or disability. If you fall into this category, your pet may be an ESA. There are no species specific requirements for ESAs. While dogs tend to be the most common form of emotional support animal, any animal can qualify. So, if you have a cat, bird, or even a more alternative pet such as a hedgehog, these could all count.

How Can I Benefit from ESA Certification?

There are certain situations in life where you could potentially be separated from your pet. This, of course, could be extremely traumatic if you have a special bond. ESA certification can help to guarantee that you and your pet can remain together. Say you move into a privately leased house and the landlord may say that they have a no pets policy. An ESA certificate can be used to ensure that your pet is allowed in the house, regardless of the no pets policy. An ESA certificate can also be used to ensure that your pet can travel with you on airlines that may otherwise exclude pets from the cabin.

 

This is just a brief introduction to emotional support animals. Hopefully, it has proven useful, and you can put the information to good use if you have an animal of your own who offers you emotional support in your life!


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Treat Yo'self (on a budget)

The concept of treating yourself and engaging in self-care has become increasingly popular over recent years, and for good reason. The need to focus on health and mental well-being cannot be overestimated, especially in a busy world that relentlessly places extra demands on your time and energy. A societal change that encourages people to focus on themselves and their own happiness has long been due.

However, there is one downside to the self-care, treat yo’ self phenomenon; it’s that many of the methods employed to do this are downright expensive. Go out for a meal with friends; get a massage; have your nails done… all wonderful ideas, but all demanding on your finances. In fact, you were to engage in this kind of self care on a regular basis, it wouldn’t be long until you were having to visit the likes of https://debtconsolidation.co in an effort to manage your beleaguered finances - which wouldn’t be much of a ‘treat’.

There’s no denying that treating yourself and indulging in self-care are beneficial, however, so how can you introduce these concepts into your life without ruining your finances? Here are a few ideas.

#1 - Switch your phone off

We spend our lives tethered to our phones, instantly contactable by a variety of people, and exposed to an endless stream of information. While undeniably useful, the harm caused by this relentless connectivity cannot be underestimated; it can lead to addiction, and creates a sense that you’re always “on”, needing to be ready to respond if someone reaches out to you. Under these conditions, relaxation can be incredibly difficult.

To counter this, turn your phone off the moment you get home from work. You can warn your closest friends and family of this decision, so they know they will need to actively visit in an emergency, then switch your phone off, and enjoy a little mental space to yourself.

#2 - Go for a walk

It may sound simple - perhaps too simple to really be of any use - but going for a walk really is one of the best methods of free self-care you can experience. As https://www.rd.com/ points out, going for a walk has a range of benefits that few conventional self-care measures could ever come close to replicating, so it’s well worth giving it a go.

#3 - Use your vacation days

As discussed on https://www.marketwatch.com/, studies have shown that over half of US citizens don’t use all of their work vacation days. This is a real shame, as time off from work is essential for managing your mental health and sense of well-being. To truly treat yourself, keep track of your vacation days and note when they expire; if the year is running out, treat yourself to a few days off - you’ve worked to obtain those days, so you definitely deserve to enjoy them.

 

In conclusion: As the points above prove, treating yourself and pursuing self-care doesn’t have to cost the earth. The tips above cost precisely $0, but will have a huge impact on your overall health and well-being.


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Changing How We View Cancer Treatment

There are few things in life that are more devastating than hearing that a loved one has cancer. However, it seems that very few of us are destined to go through life without knowing at least one friend or family member who receives a cancer diagnosis. As challenging as a this can be, there have been a lot of advances in research made within the past few years. Many patients find themselves in outpatient settings, which can be much more convenient and less expensive than sitting in a hospital. But this can also be a bit alienating to someone who may be experiencing massive physical and mental strains on a daily basis. The one thing that studies have proven—over and over again—is that having an emotional support system can be a key component for someone who is undergoing treatment for cancer.

People are usually mistaken in believing that their loved one constantly want to discuss their treatment regimen or other aspects of their diagnosis. In this regard, you will want to let them lead the way. Chances are that if they’ve just been to chemotherapy this week, they may want to talk about something else. They may want to go see a movie or just hang out and drink tea. Being part of someone’s support system doesn’t necessarily have to be a heavy responsibility. Checking in on your friend periodically, asking them if they want you to bring them something, may be all that they need. Every case is different, so don’t assume that a loved one’s journey is the same as another’s. Try to be as considerate as you can possibly be; realize that your calendar might not work for them, so try to call them when they have some time to talk. Ask if they need help with chores or errands. You don’t have to break the bank helping someone; many times, the most helpful tasks do not require money. If your loved one’s appearance is different, try not to reveal your emotions about how they look. Remember that cancer may seem a lot worse than it is during certain portions of treatment.

Some organizations have dedicated a great deal of time and funding to the cause, such as the Lefkofsky Foundation. As the co-founder of Tempus, Eric Lefkofsky is a visionary who believes that cancer treatment needs to be brought into the 21st century. With an astute business sense, his endeavors have often been very high-profile, and his somewhat recent foray into the medical field is no different. Tempus is considered a “unicorn” fund, attracting an extraordinary level of investment from heavy hitters in the marketplace. Everyone recognizes that the need for better and more advanced cancer care should be a top priority in our society, and Lefkofsky agrees. 

Tempus wants to make it easier for physicians to do the simple things that will enhance their patients’ lives, such as digitizing clinical and molecular data for cancer. With Lefkofsky leading the charge, everyone is hopeful that real results will be generated.


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How You Can Support Positivity

Do you sometimes have the feeling that, when you open the curtains to look outside in the morning, the world is still gray and sad? On TV, the news is depressively bad, and even at the office, the mood seems quite low. It’s often a race against the deadline and the boss’s temper! In other words, do you find your word too negative? For most people, the Grayness of the outside world can fade gradually until they stop noticing it. But not you. You continue to notice all the things that aren’t quite right around you. Why not decide to take the matter into your own hands and dedicate your energy to building a positive world? Positivity is a strength that everybody needs in their life, so that could certainly make a great deal of difference. But, you object, how am I going to build positivity on top of my job? Well, that’s easy. You could pick a career path that creates a positive outcome.

Why do we need more positivity?

Life seems to be surrounded by negativity. Pessimism is flooding the world, and worst of all is that we’re all responsible for it. The brain is designed to project potential threats and danger so that we can be warned before anything happens. That’s why, for example, anybody in their right mind stays away from running across a busy motorway. We instinctively know that it could be dangerous. That’s the role of the brain to think of negative outcomes and alert us. But this means that more and more people are brainwashed by negativity. You should adopt a positive attitude in life because it will provide you with a helpful guidance. It won’t stop your brain from seeing potential dangers, but it will also train it to see potential goodness around. Too much negativity can make you sick: Depression, isolation, and stress are tightly connected to an increase of negativity. It’s therefore important to build a positive defense to step away from negative influences gradually.

At a personal level

Start by bringing a positive force into your life. Your outlook on life can be affected by your thinking, either positive or negative. However, it may be a little too easy to suggest that all it takes is some positive thinking to improve your life. It doesn’t. What it takes to make your life better is positive changes. If you want to get rid of the negativity that surrounds you, then you need to fix the areas that attract and encourage negative thinking. For instance, if you’ve got a friend who keeps putting you down, let them know how it affects you. Or remove them from your friendship circle. It might sound a little harsh, but in the end, it’s about creating positivity in your life. In the end, building a career that generates positive outcomes means that you need to support it with a life filled with positivity. And that starts by sorting out everything that doesn’t work for you. Improve your health, your lifestyle, and reduce your stress levels. Only then can you make a positive impact on other people’s lives.

With others

A positive job is great. But working on your positivity generation is even better. In other words, you can continue your journey by changing your behavior towards others. Being nice is a difficult art that needs to feel natural. But more importantly, being nice genuinely improves the quality of life, for those who receive your kindness but for yourself too. At a professional level, being nice to people means that you are more easily trusted, and you can build strong and successful interactions with others.

Addressing the need via a health job

Embracing a health career is one of the most obvious ways to bring positivity into other people’s lives. It’s well-known that nurses and doctors are perceived as selfless individuals, as their interest is your health. But the greatest example of selflessness in almost living memory comes probably from the Franciscan Missionaries of Our Lady University, when in 1911 six Sisters from France crosses the ocean to answer a healthcare call in Louisiana. They started this health system in the state to support their patients and deliver better care. Additionally, they’ve also started a school to spread their message of care and peace to new students. Today the university and the health system still exist, proof that a good deed can go a long way.

Addressing the need in education

Positivity is a skill that can make a difference in the way young people build their future. For instance, teachers and parents are responsible for helping children to discover their passions. Steve Reifman uses the Passion survey with his students to provide the encouragement they need to grow their skills and support their passions. His goal is simple: He wants kids to receive the motivation and the enthusiasm they need to learn and grow positively.

Addressing the need in the arts

There is no denying that the arts can have a significant impact on the well-being of communities. But they can also contribute to the healthy development of individuals by giving them a platform for creative learning, exchange, activism, and interactions. Using only the power of the arts, peaceful movements can be established throughout the world. Creative individuals carry the beacon of positivity in their creations, via activities with children, or exhibitions.

Addressing the need in everyday life

How about embracing the possibility of volunteering to make a direct change in the quality of life of those around you? VolunteerMatch is dedicated to bringing good and willing people with good cause together all across the world. Whether you want to become an active advocate of the human rights,or a protector of the animal cause and your job can’t help you to support these, you can find what you need on their website to create positivity around you. But more than just helping, you can also learn new skills to change your career path for good.

 

Positivity is not an impossible dream. It’s a force that you can create for you and others through your behavior, career choices and your volunteer activities. It’s never too late to bring a smile tosomeone’s face!


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