From time to time, it can be worthwhile to ask ourselves the hard questions. These might be the questions that deep down we know the answer to, but have been suppressing. These are the questions that might help us choose a more healthy direction in our lives, and potentially better who we are from top to bottom. They might help us break out of a period of stagnation, or simply give us the tools to love ourselves anew.
One of these questions, perhaps one of the biggest is - ‘are you holding yourself back?’ It can be important to know if this is the case. If so, you might find that you’re expressing the truth of that in various different ways. It might be that you’re not giving yourself room to truly talk about things that are important to you, or maybe you’re feeling upset that you’re not performing as well as you should be.
Once you ask this question, you might come up with an answer. If ‘no,’ then you’re all good. Anything from ‘maybe’ to ‘yes,’ and you should consider the following:
Mind Your Self-Talk
You’ll often hear a lot of spiritual platitudes when it comes to being kinder to yourself. ‘Mind your self-talk, it is a conversation with the universe’ is one you’ll see often if you follow even one meditation-led Instagram account. But no matter how your personal philosophy has developed, there is some truth to be found here. What do you stay to yourself when looking in a mirror? Do you think “ugh, another day. You look gross. You need to fix your hair, it’s disgusting when it’s not straightened. If only you actually woke up earlier you’d have time to do this. But no, you’ve failed again.” This sounds intense, but some people actually speak to themselves in that register. If you find yourself being intensely critical, why not give yourself just a little more room to enjoy your day? A great method of progression here is to treat yourself as if you were a friend who wishes the best for you. This easy-to-understand idea can boost self esteem, and give you a confident platform from which to operate. If you wouldn’t be friends with yourself, you need to change your ways.
Get To The Nitty-Gritty
HOW are you holding yourself back? Have you been meaning to head to the gym for six months now? Is someone in your personal life treating you terribly, and you haven’t mentioned it? Are you giving all of yourself to help others and when you reach out, you get nothing in return? Get to the nitty gritty of what is making you uncomfortable. It will come if you dissect it well enough. Then you might be able to form some understandable ideas and make some real change, but not if you refuse to examine it.
Give Yourself Space
You’re not going to perfect life in an instant. But provided you have the care and attention to progress on one front, you’re likely to progress on another. Give yourself the space to, and remember, it’s okay to go slow or to fail.
Try making some use of these tips, and see what happens…
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